The Myth of Gender
the origin story of gender identity
Let’s talk about gender. What do we mean when we use that word gender?
In the early 90s, when it was cool to be a young woman who called herself a feminist, gender was a thing we fought against because we knew it motivated Andre Lepine to murder 13 women in cold blood at point blank range. The thinking of the time held that gender devalued humans by projecting limiting + moralistic narratives about sex-based roles onto humans.
I was there in the 90s, I remember we fought against gender stereotyping. We watched our sisters get chased down busy streets in heavy rush hour traffic by men trying to kill them—this was gender. We watched our sisters get shot waiting for the bus by incel stalkers they tried to get away from and could not because the police could afford women no protection from these men—this was gender. We watched with horror as our sisters got crushed by gender, in domestic violence situations that devolved into no-win situations all around.
Some of us, like me and my siblings, carry the horror of gender in our hearts because we are the children of a woman who suffered abuse at the hands of her husband and then further abuse from the religious community who watched + did nothing—that was gender. This was not my father, (I feel the need to always emphasise this point because my father is the angel in this story of my mother’s) though the physical violence + psychological abuse of my mother’s first marriage + family does live in me through placental exchange. Trauma, a teratogen, crosses the placental wall.
My (living mitochondrial) sisters, like I, have each suffered at the hands of gender in their lives—our circumstance differ and when you strip them away what we share between us remains—we are female people, and the most painful things to ever have happened to us happened because of gender. Yes, take your pick—rape | partner abuse | sexual harassment | infidelity—it is gender and it harms female people and therefore it harms society.
Gender caused our brothers to suffer too, I will add. Machismo + hyper masculinity kept them up at night with nightmares—any boy who grew up with a violent dad will tell you gender did him no favours. A gay man in a catholic world will tell you gender did him no favours. A mama’s boy who’s father beat him will tell you gender did him no favours. A sensitive polymath genius dude who watched his father whom he loves beat his mother and who does not himself jive with machismo culture will tell you gender did him no favours. Our brothers might be somewhat sexists d1ckbags (blokes of their generations, boomers if you will) however that doesn’t mean they benefited from gender, I think every human is somewhat sexist. Just so we are clear that gender harms ALL humans (ie does not favour one sex) because it devalues all humans.
Now, 30 years later, we are all watching in horror as the gender monster reaches in, captures the education + legal + medical systems + dominates all levels of government + their service delivery to the public and thusly, violates the constitution. Now 30 years later we are all watching as left-wing progressives have the unmitigated gall to, with a straight face and all the seriousness of a firebrand Catholic Monseigneur on the pulpit, accuse anyone who challenges gender stereotyping of committing genocide. We have the entire of academia, the education, legal and medical systems, as well as the government service delivery system ALL agreeing that human reproductive class is a colonial construct invented by the British which subjective and fluid gender identity feelings can override. Welcome to Gender-Lysenkoism in Canada.
So what I’m saying is that in 3 decades we went from being called cool + edgy for fighting gender stereotyping in schools + acknowledging there are many ways to be a boy and many ways to be a girl to being called a genocidal religious extremist for fighting gender stereotyping in schools + acknowledging there are many ways to be a boy and many ways to be a girl.
My head is spinning—how the fcuk did we get to this place??
Also, still my question stands—what do we mean when we use that word gender?
Oxford Languages on the Google search page tells me the following definitions.
Gender:
either of the two sexes, especially when considered with reference to social + cultural differences rather than biological ones. The term is also used more broadly to denote a range of identities that do not correspond to established ideas of male + female.
each of the classes of nouns + pronouns distinguished by the different inflections that they require in words syntactically associated with them. Grammatical gender is only very loosely associated with natural distinction of sex.
So, when we use that word gender we use it as a placeholder for a set of human characteristics founded in a particular society’s cultural normative structure. Gender projects the American progressive secular vision of humans onto humanity. The progressives have thrown that pejorative word queer into the fold to underscore their contempt for human sexual boundaries—the visible contempt embedded within American Progressive Political Activism plays a vital role in the coercive control exerted by the Wokerati, my affectionate pet name for this segment of society.
Let’s dig in some more—yep we gonna go all the way down this rabbit hole!
The WHO gives me the following explanation.
Gender refers to the characteristics of women, men, girls and boys that are socially constructed. This includes norms, behaviours and roles associated with being a woman, man, girl or boy, as well as relationships with each other. As a social construct, gender varies from society to society and can change over time.
—World Health Organisation
Okay, so wait—you mean to tell me that we are tormenting children by telling the lie that they are in the wrong body and they will kill themselves if they don’t let the fanatical adults around them give them a secret identity that tries to make them the opposite sex and sets them on a course to sterilisation and lifelong medical dependence, and we are terrorising parents with state apprehension of their children if they challenge teachers or psychologists or bleeding heart social workers about this deranged plan hatched about their children unbeknownst to them, and this is all for a thing THAT CAN CHANGE OVER TIME??? AYFKM? Progressives are destroying families and bodysnatching children for a fucking social construct that admittedly changes over time??
And all the while we wax poetically about the number 215, though huh? Oh look at Canada we are a genocidal state, we gots a picture of our Feminist Drag Race Prime Minster holding a teddy bear in a cemetery to prove it. Lester B. Pearson eat your heart out mate. We have THE FEMINIST DRAG RACE PRIME MINISTER coming to save everything. Woot Woot. Captain Feminist is flying overhead. Can you see him, our Feminist Drag Race PM, he just mooned the Snowbirds (kidding, he only did this in some Conservative’s wet dream hahaha). Everyone cheer loudly. We are so fcuking Woke with a capital D for d1ck energy. That’s gender.
Are we there yet? Just read the horsesh1t propaganda he writes in that Marie Claire piece. Then take a look at what he’s done to the women of this country. Then ask some of them—
Ask Heather Mason if Justin has listened to or trusted her strong voice.
Ask Amy Hamm if Justin and his regime have listened to or trusted her strong voice.
Ask Meghan Murphy, who received death threats for speaking out for constitutional rights, if Justin listened to or trusted her voice.
Ask Dr. Linda Blade, who was among those smeared by a federally funded anti-hate hate group which targets feminists, if she feels that Justin has listened to or trusted her strong voice, or those of the female athletes she trains.
Take a look at the pictures of Justin—look carefully who he rubs shoulders with—and then go read his words about standing up for what’s right against the kind of masculinity that’s so damaging to men. Remember this is the man who fcukd with Jody Wilson Raybauld. Remember this is the man who prorogued parliament to avoid the WE scandal. This is the man who invoked EM without due cause because he wanted to concentrated powers for himself. Does he stand up for what’s right so far, really? Justin is a man who fails to lead with any seriousness and who promotes ideology above all else.
Look, we are a fairly self-deluded nation, we who nominated a eugenicist as The Greatest Canadian.1 We decided that the man who saved the world with his discovery of Insulin, Frederick Banting, gets fourth place. Wow look at us everyone we so speshul. LOL. What the fcuk is wrong with us, Canada? Why are we this repressive self-smug asshole factory? FFS I find my country’s national personality so annoying. OMFG we suuuuck in this one major way, dude. Ugh.
Have the muppets promoting the twisted neo-colonial gender takeover of schools + pediatric mental health bothered to read the definition of genocide? Here is an excerpt of behaviours that constitute genocide, straight from the UN definition of Genocide.
Causing serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group
Deliberately inflicting on the group conditions of life calculated to bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part
Imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group
Forcibly transferring children of the group to another group
Why don’t we ask the hoards of parents + grandparents, who have had their babies snatched from them by the cruel cult of Queer Activists, what they think about this definition of genocide? Why don’t we ask these families, whom the MSM deliberately chooses to ignore, what’s happening on the ground? Some of us have been at this nearly a decade and we have receipts or know where to find them.
If you stick around this game long enough you will have the gut wrenching, heart-smashing experience of meeting a parent who lost their child to this cult. All these parents suffer silently and I hate every minute of this and I have tried to back away as much as I try I cannot look away because I know the pain of suffering immense losses and of the betrayals of silences and I know the gut wrench of losing your child to something that could be prevented and of dying inside and no one seeing.
When I first wake up, I live a few moments in the before, but this amnesia always fades, and I remember that my son is slipping away.
—from The Wall, in Parents with Inconvenient Truths About Trans
I want the world of progressives to begin worrying that the ruse has begun falling apart. This movement arguably now qualifies as genocide. The truth won’t be kept down forever. The universe is watching and weeping and karma waits for her time, be sure of that fact.
Anyway, onward.
Let’s dissect that word gender from an etymological standpoint. The word gender originates from the French genre and the Latin genus. These words denote classification, sorting, ranking. Based on the etymology of the word gender alone, progressives have essentially placed children and young people in a human genre box and told them that’s individual liberation. Yes let’s place children in gender cages and tell them they are defective and need fixing because their bodies don’t conform to the gender cage, that’s super liberating. Can you see the lie?
This is a movement trying to disrupt society’s ability to organise and protect itself via a long evolved classification of humans in the society as belonging to either the male or female reproductive class. Humans have anisogamy and we are NOT sequential hermaphrodites—we do not possess the capacity to change sex and any physically or chemically invasive attempts to do so have the high potential to render the humans in question permanently sterile and perhaps remove some or all of their sexual function.
If you are denying the vehicle through which humans reproduce and denying young humans in particular the physical opportunity to experience a sexual life in adulthood then you are denying the most human thing about humans and you are denying human reproduction and that, my dear reader is called…? [See above]. Yes, if you are that adult who thought it would ever be a good idea to perform experimental surgical procedures on children to make them appear like the opposite sex, you have bought your membership to the eugenics club. UN Conventions exist precisely because of people like these ghouls who want to experiment on children!
Imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group + intended to cause serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group is considered genocide.
John Money coined the terms gender and gender role. Robert Stoller coined the term gender identity. It’s important to note that Money did not have a dualistic conception of humans. Gender emerged from his desire to elevate the discourse of sexuality above nature vs nurture, socialising vs biological determinants—to a more phenomenological vision of sexuality.
Money’s treatment of gender and Stoller’s invention of gender identity seemed to provide a perfect fuel for postmodernist thinkers who infiltrated and built distortions they called feminist and gender studies. The word gender also appealed to the religious sexual repressives who could not bring themselves to say or write the word sex and so began using gender interchangeably with sex. Okay Bad Hijabi needs to interrupt herself here and say—it’s Christian sexual repressives, let’s be honest and call it: this is a Christian thing and not an Jewish or Muslim thing to get weird and repressive about sexuality. Well, looky here Bubba—we gots ourselves a psyops dreamscape! Woot Woot!
Remember what Orwell warned in 1946? When humans become lazy with language, the level of chaos in public discourse and, hence society, increases. This happened with sex and gender—we got lazy.
If Money had a holistic conception of the human psyche, Stoller had a nuanced conception of gender identity. In his 1964 paper he mentions core gender identity, which is one’s inner sense of one’s own sex category, and in fact states Thus there is ascribed to any person at birth an absolute position as one sex or the other, with the result that one develops a sense of only belonging to one gender. It is obvious that proper ascription of sex is extremely important.
In fact, Money would discover this truth through his work with and abuse of David Reimer. I want you all to spend time reading about the Reimer family and what John Money did to them. Read about this human. He was a fcuking human being and not your bloody gender mascot. Victor Frankenstein never cared a wit for life, he cared for his own glory. John Money is Victor Frankenstein.
A circumcision conducted with malfunctioning electrical equipment burned off Bruce Reimer’s penis, leaving his parents with a conundrum. Reimer’s parents saw John Money on TV discussing his new sex-reassignment surgery, and they approached him, hoping he could help them. How many times does a parent think oh I’m trying to help my kid, when really they are serving their ego?
“We were too close to the situation,” Janet says. “I had brainwashed myself. I couldn’t afford to believe anything else.” (J Colapinto 2000: p 170)
In the early infancy of his life after losing his penis in a surgical accident, Bruce Reimer’s parents approached a renowned sexologist and asked the sexologist to help them turn their infant son who lost his penis into a girl. Money performed genital surgery on the baby and advised the parents to raised their boy as a girl. Oh this is convenient we get to turn our son into a daughter. Bruce became Brenda. Wonder of wonders for John Money that Bruce had a twin brother, Brian—the perfect control subject in this experiment about nature versus nurture.
The majority of her peers continued to jeer and laugh at [Brenda] … David is more rueful when he recalls his habit as Brenda of beating up the boys who teased her. “It only made people think I was a bigger weirdo and ostracize me more.” (J Colapinto 2000: p. 149)
When you dig even just a little bit, you find evidence that Brenda never fit in. The reaction alone of her peers and her own self to her obvious awkwardness tells us that Money’s experiment failed! Humans are hardwired to discern the sexes. Duh, that skill is vital to our survival as a species. When you dig into the Reimer story you cannot ignore the obvious fanatical derangement and sexual perversion of John Money, who had one personality when the parents were around and another in their absence. The Reimer twins hated going to see John Money. Reimer and his twin suffered severe psychological damage from Money’s experimentations and they committed suicide in adulthood, a few years apart from one another. And a mother who sought to fix her son ended up losing both children to the man who said he could fix it.
David recalls an occasion when he attempted to defy [Money]…And he scream, “Now!” Louder than that. I thought he was going to give me a whupping. So I took my clothes off and stood there, shaking.” In a separate conversation, Brian recalls that same incident. “Take your clothes off-now!” Brian shouts. (J Colapinto 2000: p. 87)
Reimer began to report feelings of discordance around puberty and his dad decided to tell him the truth. Immediately Bruce who became Brenda proceeded to detransition and became David. Remember what Stoller wrote—it is obvious that proper ascription of sex is extremely important. The lesson learned—every individual has a core innate sense of their own sex even buried under trauma and feelings of discordance or dysphoria—has been ignored by present day genderists. The terms gender and gender identity grew within a clinical research setting as very nuanced concepts which queer theorists and social justice activists have bastardised and hijacked for their cultural agenda.
The words you choose reflect the way you see the world. The words you choose reflect the values you have as a human. Think carefully about your word choices. Why do you use gender rather than sex? I want to know your intention in choosing that word gender when you could use sex instead. Do you intend to obfuscate? Do you intend to evangelise to everyone about your gender religion? Do you seek to be seen as a good person? How do you feel about your choice of the word gender, knowing the man who coined the term as we use it today abused children and destroyed a family and essentially experimented on unsuspecting children to promote this theory and then lied about this failure, claiming it as a medical advancement?
In 1987 John Money claimed infant sex change as among his most important contribution to medical science—a bold faced lie, since an ethical + clinical failure cannot be a contribution to medical science. (J Colapinto 2000: p. 204)
So, again—why use that word gender when sex will do just fine? Are you entirely okay with a fanatical ideology which seeks to impose a sexual identity on a child and call that clinical treatment of puberty? To the clinicians—you seriously put your own ass ahead of a child’s physical integrity and wellbeing? You are all going to be like Keith Sigmundson? Sigmundson is the psychiatrist who treated the Reimer twins and he explained, I was sh1t scared of John Money, as his reason for not going public with the actual outcome of John Money’s experimentations.2
As for the rest of us, who have languished in this battle field for so long, remember compassion. Yes, it is difficult. Yes, you and I have so much rage. Remember compassion. If only for yourself, because a grudge poisons you and no one else. However filled with fiery righteous rage I may feel, Colapinto’s book has reminded me that parents who buy into this gimmick for their kids have a vested interested in denying the truth—they desperately need to believe in what they did as the right thing. Surely you can understand that? Can you imagine the horror when a parent realises that letting the Gender Cult in was the worst mistake of their life? Can you even put yourself in Janet Reimer’s shoes for 5 minutes? Perhaps this can inform our strategy in this fight for our children.
I could write for ages, the story of gender has a lot more pieces to it—I chose to focus on the vital component that’s frequently overlooked, and yet is the reason John Money and his ridiculous approach have gained traction to this point. People most consider who you are and how you say what you say, as opposed to what you actually say. I hope I can convince enough people I am worthy of their ear and brain—I will continue to tell the real story of gender as I have learned it in my own research. Stay tuned for more in-depth posts like this about The Myth of Gender.
Colapinto, J. As Nature Made Him. 2000. Toronto: Harper Collins Ltd.