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Number 18418 on The Github List. The last time I wrote you, I had just discovered my name appears on a massive list of 40k people who are “TERFS”, ie have public declared the following:
humans are not sequential hermaphrodites - the biological sex marker never changes
sexual orientation is hardwired and not a “gender identity”
gender is social - it is the role we attach to the particular sex role, there is no biological gender marker
women = adult human female
males who identify as women are not women and have no space in female spaces or sports or prisons or rape shelters
excluding males from female spaces is acceptable (ie constitutional for those of us in Canada) discrimination necessary for upholding safeguards
males do not belong in female sport because male people who have experienced puberty have an obvious and scientifically documented physical advantage over female people
motherhood is female, men cannot get pregnant nor give birth
gender self id violates women’s reproductive choices by forces them to share intimate spaces with members of the opposite reproductive class - this increases the risk of unwanted rape + pregnancy to the most vulnerable women in our society, ie carceral female people
That’s the position of the so-called evil TERFs1 espouse. Yes, that’s it, honestly. This is the big scary nazi bigoted white supremacist colonial racist [insert slur here to continue the chain of propaganda] grift. This is why Graham Linehan has lost his career, been sidelined and cast as extreme, because he stands for these facts of human reality. This is why Kathleen Stock received the persecution she did. This is why Kellie-Jay Keen Munshell has received death threats. This is why everyone cancelled JK Rowling. Yes because of this really ordinary position on human sexuality and reproduction and biological safeguards. No, I am not kidding. America is fcukd in the head. This is America leading the charge here, btw. Yes, it’s American money being pumped into these movements.
So anyway unhinged extremists out there exist who know code and can create bot-things that collect names en masse and then publish this list everywhere to try blacklist anyone on that list. Github hosted the list and I think they have taken it down. Nonetheless we know it’s not over, the stalkers and terrorists never stop. I use my identifiable name, not everyone does.
I don’t care. I won’t hide, avoidance becomes it’s own payoff. I really loathe anyone with a profile who is a coward and not standing up for truth at this point. Fcuk you, go to hell. We can clearly see who lacks integrity. Yeah, nice touch using that word on me, I don’t forget horsesh1t like that easily. Miss me now. 🚮
Anyhoo. Moving on like a heard of turtles cuz serious bigger fish are out there waiting for me to fry them. Onward and upward. I’m number 18418 on The List. I call it La Cirque du Coeur. Happy to be hated because I publicly opposed a movement that is basically a cult of body modification-obsessed social cannibals who are attacking the parent-child attachment in egregious and horrifying ways.
Peer Orientation of Children by Adult Members of the SOGI Cult via Schools. Washington State recently passed Senate Bill 5599, which essentially allows the state to keep a runaway child’s whereabouts from the parents if the parents oppose transitioning their child. Transitioning means chemical castration with gnRHa hormones + sterilisation with opposite sex hormones, (both of which are off label uses and experimental treatment with significant side effects including long term metabolic damage), and it also means harmful behaviours such as breast binding and penis tucking and it means unnecessary amputation of healthy breasts and it means cosmetic genital mutilation, (which is highly experimental and has a high complication rate). Why would any parent in the right mind want this for their child??
How on earth is all of that, which places a child on a life-long track to medical dependence by the way, how is all of that affirming? To whom is it affirming? We have a culture actively orienting children away from their parents, their most vital and life-affirming relationship and their most formative and character forming and resilience-building attachment - one from which all life flows. How did we get to this place, where now the state has become a purveyor of what I can only regard as kidnapping a child?
Twenty years ago Gordon’ Neufeld and Gabor Maté wrote a book called Hold Onto Your Kids, a book about the breakdown in the parent-child relationship brought about by a culture of over-sexualisation, digital creep, social media influence and a social world where a sinister Peter Pan force lurks. Peer orientation fosters a hostile and sexualised youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated, the back cover of my new book explains. Miriam Grossman, MD mentions the harm of encouraging kids to keep secrets from their parents in her 2018 affidavit.
So, everyone and their dog has fixated on the kids. Naturally, anything involving kids gets everyone’s attention - it’s a primal thing. Kids represent species survival. When you conduct medical experiments on them, state-enforced medical experiments, and when you steal kids from their parents to conduct these experiments, which you call affirming — well people take notice and get excited.
What about the parents? Who sees the trauma of parents? Some of us do.
My patient “Cheryl” is an example of a traumatized parent. Her 18-year-old autistic daughter, her only child, identifies as a man and has been on testosterone for six months. Cheryl is convinced she and her husband were misled by a gender clinic and that “Eva” did not have adequate evaluations and therapy. For the first time in her life, Cheryl is taking psychiatric medication for her constant crying, sleeplessness, and anxiety. — Miriam Grossman, MD in Therapists Have Betrayed The Parents Of Gender-Confused Kids, And There’ll Be Hell To Pay
This is loss of a child. It’s a loss which no one sees or acknowledges. It’s the only time a parent loses a child where the whole fcuking world tells them they are bigots blah blah for feeling natural feelings about their kid just disappearing into a body modification cult without anything they can do about it.
Parents need support to live with the trauma of cultish alienation from their children at the hands of the school system and health care system and the state — entities to whom they entrusted the care and education of their children. Wrap your head around what a mind fcuk it is for parents to live in a world where these institutions have become hostile kidnapping predators out for their kids in a culture that has normalised Peer Orientation of kids.
Why isn’t this happening in other cultures, some ask? Well, because of Peer Orientation. Some cultural societies do not indulge the anglophone culture of Peer Orientation, which tells children to value peers and peer culture over parents and parental culture, those societies foster communities populated by families that have at their heart solid unshakeable parent-child attachments and a culture which fosters said attachment. In this context it takes a village to raise a child, a village that support the parents as the experts on their child above all others.
So, with this in mind, I founded Missing From Me Parent Support and Advocacy Society. There are three of us and we have a bank account with $150 in the bank, my own money which I took from a payday loan I had to take out to pay for some stuff. We are a grassroots, organic organisation. I wrote the filing documents and filed the society paperwork and paid the fees myself. Oh, I am on a fixed long term disability pension and my partner is working a nightshift job in a factory early an hourly wage. And I am doing this and financing this.
Why is it always those with nothing and no one who start the most profound change in humanity? Feel free to help by donating or declaring your interest to participate in the organisation’s development and operation somehow. I am one person with two other people. We aim to change the world by helping parents help themselves to help their kids. We aim to change the world by helping to support and strengthen the parent-child attachment and relationship bond.
Will you help me do this? Yes, you who is reading this right now!
As Gordon Neufeld writes The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independance we must first invite dependance; to promote individuation we must provide a sense of belonging and unity; to help the child separate we must assume the responsibility for keeping the child close. We help a child let go by providing more contact and connection than he himself is seeking.
If you want to help humanity, then help me help parents, please.
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TERF = Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist and it’s a slur inventeb by trans extremists to demonise women who are standing up for sex-based rights, which are constitutionally-granted rights in Canada. Most people who hold the views espoused by those labelled TERFs aren’t radical feminists, they aren’t even trans exclusionary, and many are trans people.