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The Inner Asshole
the pr1ck inside your head is your wound talking
I have little time to write a lengthy post, I am two very important emails behind. However I wanted to share this graphic because I think The Inner Asshole is a thing many of us battle and what if we just it as our wound, and then proceeded to do the appropriate wound care? Do you allow your open, draining physical wounds to ooze all over your cloths and car and furniture etc? No, likely not and the thought grosses you out, rightly so. Ok, so, how about that level of hygiene for emotional and psychological wounds, then?
Think about that—think about assholery being a non constructive way to have a need met that cannot express itself. Think about your kid acting out because he is bothered by something, like a full diaper or pull up. Think about your confused dementia patient on a night shift acting out because she needs to empty her bladder and cannot get to the loo on her own. In each of these cases the underlying cause is a need that cannot be expressed. The human condition never leaves us, no matter if we are a small child or an elder, or anywhere in between. The need to soothing, the need for safety, the need for reassure + connection—these human needs make themselves known if we cannot find constructive + compassion ways to meet them.
If you want to talk about the The Asshole In Your Head, the cognitive distortions she sends you, and how you can get past all that, book a coaching session with me.
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