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how can we move toward Compassionate Activism
It’s really happening!! I’m launching my coaching practise + business!! At the end of this missive you will find instructions on how you can work with me as a coach.
Let’s play a wee game of imagination. Imagine some asshole splatters blood and gore all over your nice posh outfit. And then imagine that you respond by proudly trotted around showing off that ruined blood-stained outfit to everyone. Proud as a peacock strutting around with supper on your outfit, looking like you got caught in a gun battle and narrowly escaped.
That’s what present day activism reminds me of—highlighting the worst stains + carnage of human behaviour and not addressing ways to remedy it. Not even being interested in how to remedy the problem, just glorify the sh1t out of the chaos created by it under the name of activism or protest. We are still consuming each other even when we try to fix things. Are we even trying to fix things anymore, or have we devolved into worshipping the prickly + incendiary chaos we birth?
Consumptive + cannibalistic—that’s what social justice activism looks like from the outside and that’s what the response to it from anti-wokes looks like too, it’s all the same behaviour. It’s all out of control. How did we get here? Why does it feel like society has begun to close in on itself in a weird way?
Even in the political arena, Pierre Pollievre and Justin Trudeau look the same underneath the hood. Same manipulative character, same dramatic flair, same antagonism, same narcissistic outrage manufacturing.
So—What’s that all about? Why is everyone the same even when they’re different? I mean, why do all these characters from both sides want me to be angry + rageful? Why do they twist the facts to manufacture anger + chaos? Why do they need me to hate the scapegoat du jour? How does this horsesh1t help anything?
What unmet needs are lurking underneath this maladaptive behaviour? Where does this rage come from? Has our overabundance overwhelmed + consumed us?
In particular, what drives humans to view everything through an identity lens? It’s as though we can’t connect with anyone without consuming them—identity feels quite consumptive and materialistic.
What if we gave more thought to what values we want to amplify and what ethics we promote through our daily? What if we expended more careful attention on intention-setting?
What do you stand for? What purpose drives your work? Tell people, rather then tell them what + who you’re against! What you focus on grows. Your response to things + people tells people whether they can trust you or not. You get to choose how you will move through the world. Cool, huh?
Imagine activism could be intentional + purposeful. What would that look like? How can we address the problems humans face constructively? What if we adapted the hedgehog concept for the activism + nonprofit realm? What does Compassionate Activism look like in your corner of the world? How does your activism work add social value?
Bismillah Coaching for women
I will complete my coaching course and obtain certification as a Life Coach within the next few weeks. My coaching practise is called Bismillah Coaching and serves female people. I will focus my coaching practise on self-compassion—helping women identify and transform self limiting beliefs, and the eliminate maladaptive behaviours the create. I’m now taking bookings for new clients. Book the call—introduce yourself and tell me what you’d like to work on.
I have been offering free sessions to women for the purposes of accumulating practise + certification hours as well as for feedback evaluation and have appreciated the opportunity to hone my skills and feed my passion for helping others whilst making connections.
If you have received a free session and would like to take the plunge and hire me, then we can sit down and discuss a coaching plan that would be delivered under an agreement.
I would love to be your coach! Do any of the following look like you? If so, contact me, let’s work together.
I want to use social media more constructively + intentionally and less antagonistically.
I want to reduce my dependence on my mobile phone/device/computer.
I want to learn to set better boundaries with my colleagues.
I want to compassionately focus my activism work.
I have a soft spot for the Gender Critical community and anyone who has struggled to stand up for what’s right against a tide of toxic horsesh1t. So, in addition to these four areas, if you are struggling with how to transform the cognitive distortions that emerge from grief and betrayal of being cancelled, I can coach you through that.
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